Mothers and daughters are closest, when daughters become mothers.
I came across this quote few months ago I was about to get blessed with a baby. Then, I read had it just as a quote and pass by. But from the moment I had conceived my baby, I have understood the depth of these words.
Right from the beginning My Mother has been an Inspiration to me. She is one of the Most Strongest Human being I know. A working Woman who looks after her family, her home -so effortlessly with zero nagging. I wish I could possess half of her patience and quality of effortless efforts.
From ever since I have started my journey as a Mother, she is an anchor of hope and help. I recall how like an anchor she stood by me throughout my birthing hours, motivating me… cheering me up!!!
Although I could sense how nervous She was from her trembled voice but she chose to remain Calm, show how cool she is. Witnessing your baby in pain is not easy for any Mother.
After hours of efforts, when I held my baby in my hands… I noticed the joy of victory in her eyes.
Well! Thats Motherhood…. I mumbled in my head …. looking at my baby.
Her constant words of motivation keeps me going. She has been the light source of inspiration guiding me through not so easy-peasy start to our Breastfeeding journey to effortlessly breastfeeding(until 19 months) to weaning( huh! Did anybody ever mention about the tough game), Or to support my decision to massage my baby by myself (bonding session ) etc. etc. she has always got my back.
But there was one advice words of wisdom that she gave me was to give my child the most precious thing – my time, however little but uninterrupted, undivided time.
She continues to tell me that how often people mistake that only Stay-at-home mother gets loads of time to spend time with her children and working mother remains deprived of spending quality time with their loved ones.
But she stated the reality is that these are just assumptions and limitations of somebody that has been diffused.
The fact is, to give time – undivided attention to your children is a matter of choice and intention whether you are a working mother or stay-at-home mother.
What matters is how much are you present in their developments. Undivided attention especially in the first three years of a Child’s birth becomes the base of their Identity, their Persona.
An attachment Parenting style requires Intention over limitations.
My Mother herself is an Inspiration, being a full time working mother always made sure that she was fully present in our developments and more then that she was an integral part of it.
Working or Stay-at-home should not be a reason to neglect the importance of quality time with your loved one.
I feel blessed to be able to follow her advice and witness the results in my Child’s behaviour as I find him so much more settled, less stressed, more secure, confident and more cooperative.
My Mother was Right like every Mother is.
Thanks for reading my experience.
This post is a part of a blog train organised by Elina Wadia where 20 Indian moms have come together to write on how their own mothers were right! To read her article on the same topic, click here https://www.momfunda.com/2018/01/15/my-mom-was-right/